Big Cubby has been difficult about going to school the past couple of weeks. I finally got out of him why he was upset. There is this one kid who has been picking on BC. I don’t know if this kid is a bully or this is how he plays. BC is not an aggressive player.
I have now witnessed two occasions where this kid has tried to push BC into a muddy patch by the school door. This first time it was a little girl and BC being pushed. Today was one of those occasions and I stepped in because the kid would not stop pushing BC. I went over and I sounded like a teacher. I said stop pushing. That is mean and someone could get hurt. Get in line the bell is going to ring. Then the bell rang.
The first time this happened was on Tuesday. I waited to see what would happen. It wasn’t excessive pushing like today. BC had a really bad day that day as we found out through parent/teacher conference last night. He refused to do any work. He was then not allowed to go to the computer lab. The teacher did not know about the incident that happened that morning because BC did not tell her.
I guess there have been other incidents going on class. They sit at the same table but starting Monday everyone is getting new seats so BC and this kid will not be sitting next to each other.
I am upset that this is affecting the way BC looks at school. He is a smart kid and the teacher says he does really well. He does have a few things to work on but overall he does get things they are learning.
This makes me sick to my stomach. Hubby and I have talked to him about it. The mama bear in me wants to rip this kid apart for upsetting my son. I have been calm and we are dealing with it on our end.
The teacher is aware that something is going on between the two and is now aware of one of the incidents before school. BC did not tell her about today and he got a note home from the teacher because he pushed a someone out of the way because he was in to big of a hurry to get mail from his box and he kissed a kid in his class. The same kid who he has a problem with. I think he is trying to show the boy that they can be friends oh I don’t know what he is thinking. Rule at school is no hugging and kissing that is for home. We drill this into him because he all ready had a note sent home about that.
BC is a lot like me. We get upset easily. We have nervous stomachs. We are socially awkward. I am shy when it comes to meeting new people and have trouble talking to people. We have only had one play date this year because I am afraid and feel awkward about the whole thing. I know this doesn’t help BC but I get paralyzed with fear thinking about initiate the first move.
I feel like I am screwing him up. UGH, I hate this! I hate this feeling.
What would you do?
5 comments:
Enroll BC in martial arts. It'll help with self-discipline and confidence. And, God forbid, he has to defend himself.
Kids are mean..i hate any kid that makes my kid feel sad, mad or whatever. When they are in K it's hard to tell them to "tell the teacher" or "walk away". All you can do is hope that the teacher is aware and let LC know its okay to come to you w/issues. If he knows you won't be mad/upset he will come all the time to talk (at least until they get older and hate us no matter what) good luck!
Ohhhh that is so hard. I HATE this kind of thing. He is lucky he has such a good mama, though :)
I honestly don't know what I would do, especially since our oldest is only 2 1/2. Since her baby brother was born she has become very aggressive and I'm afraid she is the "bully" at play dates. We have been trying everything to help her with this. The latest...a sticker chart! Maybe that will work with BC. Probably not, since he is 5. My husband keeps asking me if this parenting thing is going to get easier and I tell him it will, but now I'm not so sure. I think you just get in to different problems, not necessarily easier ones.
You know, I really like eatmisery's suggestion! I hadn't thought of that since this hasn't come up for me yet, but I like it.
But I have to disagree about the telling the teacher part. Kindergarten is most definitely the time when it's still okay to tell the teacher. It's when they get older that it's looked down on more by pretty much everyone to be a tattletale.
If it gets worse, I'd try to sit down with the teacher and talk about it. But my suspicion is that it will all blow over quickly because their relationships at that age are very hot and cold. Good luck with it!
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